via – Lydia M., AVAC’s AbsoluteFIT Blogger
Little pitchers have big ears.One of my main motivations for starting AbsoluteFIT was to provide a good role model for my kids, especially my daughter, who was then six. In fact, what I actually wrote was: “I want to look like Wonder Woman to my daughter — strong, fierce, powerful — so she knows what a fit lifestyle really is.”
That has remained a solid motivation for me — and I’ve always talked about exercise and fitness in terms of how good I feel after an AbsoluteFIT workout, how strong I’m getting, etc., and never about how I need to “burn off” something I “shouldn’t have” eaten, or because I’ll get fat if I don’t. She will hear body-shaming words constantly, from all corners of her life — but never from me or her dad.
And it’s a good thing, too; I got a big reminder the other day of how observant children are. We were in the middle of the weekday morning rush when my now-eight-year-old said, “Mommy, you never eat breakfast, except on weekends. You always just have your coffee. Why don’t you eat breakfast?”
Eeep! I didn’t realize she noticed until then. I told her the truth, which is that I don’t like to have food in my stomach before I work out, but that I always eat something nutritious afterward. She seemed satisfied by that, and the moment passed. But we should all remember: Our kids are watching, listening, processing and mentally recording what we say AND what we do, and if we want them to have healthy relationships with food and their bodies, it’s important to make sure words and deeds match.