“Me Time” Makes for Better “We Time”
When I got back from my unexpected, awful trip to Texas, I made time, as always, for AbsoluteFIT workouts and a run or two. There was a lot to do in my house — the ongoing renovation project, taking care of my sick house guests (they had the same feverish coughing miserable crud everyone you know has had in the last two months), all the usual Christmas/holiday stuff, etc. — but working out helped lessen my anxiety and made me feel strong, centered and focused for 45 crucial minutes in those otherwise chaotic days.
But then someone close to me suggested that I was not spending enough time with the kids, because I was “at the gym all the time.” That stung — a lot. Never mind that it wasn’t true (45 minutes! 3-4x a week!), and frankly was kind of mean; it still hit close enough to the mark after my pre-Christmas absence, and made me feel desperately guilty. I took New Year’s week off entirely.
That was a mistake. A big one. My temper got shorter, my sleep got worse, I was tense and resentful, and physically I felt like a marshmallow Peep left on top of a toaster oven — sort of misshapen, soft and melty. The kids weren’t getting more of me — they were getting the raggedy, stressed-out ends of me, and honestly, we were all getting on each other’s nerves.
So, forget it — back to the studio I went, and y’all, it was like a miracle drug: I was myself again! Gosh, it felt good to jump and plank and lift and press, to concentrate on something that immediate and intense. It freed my mind of all the stress and grief I was feeling, for 45 glorious minutes — and when it was over, and I was physically spent, I felt energized, calmer, better able to love and care for and listen to my family and friends.
Lesson learned: AbsoluteFIT isn’t taking time from my family; it’s the best investment I can make in the well-being of all of us.